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View Poll Results: What'd you do if someone lies to you? (Even if it's not that important)
Whoever he/she/it is - ATTACK!!! 2 5.13%
(FRIENDS) I'd break off with them at the slightest lie they tell me. 2 5.13%
(FRIENDS) I could stand some, but I'd also consider breaking off the friendship if they messed up. 21 53.85%
(FRIENDS) While I may not like being lied, friendship is first after all. 15 38.46%
(ACQUAINTANCES) If they lied to me, bye-bye. Period. 10 25.64%
(ACQUAINTANCES) I'm somewhat tolerant of lies...being too tight is not good. 22 56.41%
(ACQUAINTANCES) I don't really care - It's about having fun 2 5.13%
I'm a compulsive liar! 5 12.82%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 39. You may not vote on this poll

What would you do if someone lies to you?
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 09:02 AM #1 (permalink) of 25
What would you do if someone lies to you?

Personally, I'm sincere and I have no tolerance for dishonesty (it makes me pretty upset, though I'm not the kind to show it explicitly).

But do you? Can you tolerate when someone lies to you, or when it happens do you raise hell to them?
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 09:13 AM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 07:13 AM #2 (permalink) of 25
I am a pretty compassionate and forgiving individual. I believe in second chances, especially if I can understand why someone would feel compelled to lie. If I'm just dealing with a straight up pathological liar... well, chances are they're pretty good at what they do and I wouldn't know... or I wouldn't waste my time on them if I did.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 09:54 AM #3 (permalink) of 25
Depends on what they lie about. A small lie is one thing, a potentially harmful one is another.

I'm more tolerant of friends than just plain acquaintances.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 11:42 AM #4 (permalink) of 25
I don't like confrontations so I would forgive and forget but a big lie that would effect me somehow is something that would need to be confronted with. I feel like letting yourself be lied to isn't anyway to keep a good relationship with any person.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 11:45 AM #5 (permalink) of 25
You forgot the most important option on your survey: "Tell them point blank that you know they lied to you and if they ever do it again, the friendship is over."
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 12:14 PM #6 (permalink) of 25
It depends on the severity of the lie. If it's a lie about something completely insignificant like what they did last weekend or what they're having for lunch then I don't really care, it's not worth my time to call them on it. If it's something that affects me or someone close to me, it's more likely that I'll care and say something to them about it.

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Old Aug 11, 2006, 12:55 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 10:55 AM #7 (permalink) of 25
I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm pretty good at telling when people are lying, and I pretty much take everything with a grain of salt. I'm hardly ever surprised when I find out something was a lie.



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Old Aug 11, 2006, 01:33 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 09:33 AM #8 (permalink) of 25
Well... what kind of lies are we talking about? Like what the person is doing this weekend? Or what they had for dinner?

If someone lies to me about something pretty significant, then I'll just stop being friends with them. I've lied to people I don't really like and I think they got the hint

I lie sometimes to get out of stuff... like not wanting to go to someone's party for one reason or another. I just say I have plans. Which can be true if I decide to make one at the same time.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 02:07 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 10:07 AM #9 (permalink) of 25
I don't care if people lie to my face, or if they do it every day or every time we meet. It's their problem if they can't screw themselves up and speak their mind because they're afraid of my reaction. Hell, most of the lies I get fed are so minor that it would be more of a scene calling them out on it.

Major lies, as in ones that get me in trouble with those in authority, will get me upset, but not enough to just dismiss someone as an aquaintance on the spot. Obviously if it was malicious in intent they can fuck off, but accidents can and will be forgiven.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 02:27 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 12:27 PM #10 (permalink) of 25
It depends on the lie and person. If the lie was serious and I was pissed, then it would be hard to let them off. Especially acquaintances. Otherwise, I'm generally tolerant.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 04:26 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 01:26 PM #11 (permalink) of 25
I'm usually able to forgive someone based on the situation. A serious lie that manages to last for months is something I would find more difficult to forgive than a small lie.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 06:57 PM Local time: Aug 11, 2006, 10:57 PM #12 (permalink) of 25
I really don't care that much. If someone tells me a massive lie then I won't even confront them; I prefer to be childish and just ignore them for a while. I'm not big on confrontations but I don't like being with people who are going to lie to my face.

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Old Aug 11, 2006, 07:08 PM Local time: Aug 12, 2006, 12:08 AM #13 (permalink) of 25
I'm actually a compulsive liar, as in the clinical kind. I have been diagnosed and treated for it, but it never really went away completely.

This may seem like a contradictory statement in itself, but being a compulsive liar doesn't mean that everything I say is untrue. Quite the opposite, I am usually quite open about my life and what I experienced and whatever.

However, sometimes I will just lie about something. Usually, the lie does not serve any purpose at all. It's hard for me to give an example, but something like saying that I've seen a movie when I haven't. Of course, I do stand to gain something with that lie (ie. +1 "having seen movie" point), so another example would be to pretend I'm not sure of something that I am (like the name of an actor or songwriter). Absolutely, utterly useless lie.

Although these lies are therapeutically 'harmless', it's obviously not good going around lying about stuff randomly. Of course, if I could just stop, I would. That is where the treatment came in, and I've got it much more under control than I used to.

So anyway, I have absolutely no problem with other people lying. That would just be hypocritical. If it's intentionally harmful however, I object to the harm it causes.
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Old Aug 11, 2006, 09:25 PM #14 (permalink) of 25
Seeing as how I used to lie a lot in the past and ended up almost losing good friends over it, I adopted a no-lie policy. I lie every now and again, but only when it really is insignificant, and I try not to lie often.

As for other people lying to me, most of the time I know. Most of the time I don't say anything, but if they constantly lie and play with it enough, I'll tell them off and be done with them. Its pretty useless.

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Old Aug 11, 2006, 10:03 PM Local time: Aug 12, 2006, 04:03 AM #15 (permalink) of 25
Like everyone else, it depends on the damage done but I'm very rarely lied to by people/friends I know, so I don't know what I'd do...if they gave me a good reason as to why if it was major, I'd probably forgive them...If it was minor/ white lie, I'd just forget about it...
But I don't think/ hope I don't force people into positions where they feel they have to lie to me, so if someone lies to me, I wouldn't blame someone fully for lying to me...
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Old Aug 12, 2006, 12:19 AM Local time: Aug 12, 2006, 03:19 PM #16 (permalink) of 25
I don't take lightly to it at all. "Raise hell" doesn't describe what happens when a good friend lies to me.

It's more of an issue of trust, to me. They break my trust, they break everything between us with it.

Dishonesty is the one and only thing that can ruin anything, if you ask me. Think about it. Out of all the things that seem different, as in someone stealing from you, someone back-stabbing you, and whatever, dishonesty is always there connected to it in some way or another.

Dishonesty is the one trait I don't have the place for, or time for, in someone I'm even half-close to.


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Old Aug 12, 2006, 01:17 AM #17 (permalink) of 25
For friends, I would be tolerant, especially if it's nothing major. Even if it's something more important than usual the worst is that I'd get upset for a few days, and I'd get an explanation afterwards. I think this is mostly because I lie very frequently in a joking context for small things :$. For big things, I don't believe I've lied about anything major, but I would want a second chance, even if I only had a half-plausible explanation.

For acquaintances, I would probably chalk it up to the fact that over small things, it's probably part of their personality (eg. joking context). If somehow, it would be over a big thing, I'd be a lot more cautious, but would still like to see further prove if that is the kind of person they are.
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Old Aug 12, 2006, 03:26 AM Local time: Aug 12, 2006, 09:26 AM #18 (permalink) of 25
Both of my parents now are dead. Close friends know, but others (like alot of my penpals.) don't know. Is this liying? cause I don't feel like everyone owed to know! Do you know what I mean?!
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Old Aug 17, 2006, 10:35 AM #19 (permalink) of 25
If it's a friend, as long as it's not a big lie and a lie with reason... "Your girlfriend has been cheating on you with me for the past year", well... I guess I could take it.

And with aquaintences, I couldn't really care if it wasn't big. It all depends on the lie.
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