Since the other thread didn't seem to go the right way.

Okay, a week or so back, I was reading a "do you like shy guys" thread wherein all these shy guys insist they're more interesting than outgoing guys, and a few slightly-deluded girls say YES, that is what I am TOTALLY into. It made me think of making a thread in the same vein, but with passive guys instead of shy.

Turns out passive guys are defensive. BUT ANYWAY, it also turned out to be me insulting a bunch of people, which wasn't what I was aiming for.

I think shyness (and passiveness, although I was the only one to ever mention that) is a weird trait to be attracted to. On the face of it, it's claiming that you find people who do not like to talk to other people, and will only talk to you after you put in a large investment of time and effort, attractive.

I can see how it's neutral, or that it can be common in the types of people you like*, but to be singled out as a trait you are hot for is really off.

What other traits do people claim to be hot for, but seem really bizarre to be attracted to?

* such as nerds, for you are nerd yourself. Why lie.

I used to be attracted to artsy type chicks. Actually, I am still somewhat attracted to artsy type chicks, which I think is seriously bizarre. We all know that artsy chicks are lesbians waiting to happen. Why would I want to pursue a relationship with someone who is on the verge of not liking penis anymore? Especially after doing it twice in a row.

God bless you, russ, for going where no man will ever go again.

Hey, someone has to be there to help them get a lifetime's worth of penis enjoyment before they never touch one again, and what penis better than mine?

that is wrong on so many levels

dude, what is the significance of bringing this up again?

Originally Posted by russ

Hey, someone has to be there to help them get a lifetime's worth of penis enjoyment before they never touch one again, and what penis better than mine?

that is wrong on so many levels

Although one could suppose that your actions (or the mere appearance of your member) in fact force their detraction to that aspect of the male anatomy

This was accidental but the last serious relationship I was in (which I proposed during) was with a woman with a psyche you'd swear were a man's. She was aggressive, and a jerk. A jerk, not a bitch. She wishes she had a penis to rape me with. I quote her on that. I couldn't count the female bypassers she'd outwardly declare "she'd hit". I couldn't go anywhere without seeing a guy who hadn't had her sexually. Aggressive, I say. A libido too big for Texas and California combined. She cheated on me constantly, and made sure I knew it by calling me from where ever she was and having whoever she was with insult me from the background. There were times I'd walk out of her house just as an ex of her's walked in. During sex, she'd ask if she's looser than usual. She was a bitch. I loved it. I thoroughly enjoyed the emotional thrill ride, the hatred and the sorrow. And I have Meth to thank for helping me put up with it for nearly a year.

Most guys don't even think about the possibility that an attractive woman could be single, you know.

Originally Posted by a lurker

* such as nerds, for you are nerd yourself. Why lie.

And that's why so many attractive women are in fact single. Single and prime.

One trait in certain "brainy" women that I find 'attractive' is their glasses. It seems these types of women do possess the sense of fashion and break the suggestive trend of nerdy eyeware. Note how I said certain women as in not all brainy-type women wear glasses. But to find a chick with hot eyeware, I think I'd be all set.

And as for shy/passive guys, I don't really know much about shy guys anymore. I broke out of that whole paranoia stage of my life. For passive guys, I managed to break one of my friends. He's usually passive, he doesn't give a care about where we go to eat for lunch. Took him to Wendy's 4 times of the week. The next day, we ate at the school cafeteria since they were serving the "Taco Bar." At a Taco Bar, you just go and make your own custom taco, that's all. What happened to Wendy's? I asked him and he got sick of seeing the Southwest Taco Salad and it's Chipolte Ranch Dressing. The smell of the chili, and the fact that seeing those strips of tortilla chips only reminded him of their saltiness. Passive people can be broken, it just takes dedication and work/time.

Unfortunately, I didn't really have any defining reason to break his habits. It may of betteref him in a sense, now that he'll be more commanding and decisive of what he does everyday. But it was just for the heck of it. After reading Lurker's first post in the previous thread, I grew interested.

Yeah I never understood why a woman would want a shy guy... Part of catching a womans heart is going out and trying to winning her over, not sitting at home calling for the bazillionth time just to hang up at the sound of her voice, or worse yet, doing nothing.

Fuck people, get some testicular fortitude!!! That or just stop encouraging these spineless boys. Eventually they will learn, or well stay single forever.

I don't see how someone is passive if they honestly don't care where they go for something as trivial as a fucking meal. Could it be that they really don't care? God forbid people don't have an opinion about every little damn thing.

And for the record, having someone tell you they don't want to eat wendy's or some shit again is hardly breaking down a passive person.

It is called indifference.

Originally Posted by Gumby

It is called indifference.

Sometimes you're passive because you are indifferent.

O.O

Indifference (indifferent) = marked by no special liking for or dislike of something.

Passive = lacking in energy or will; tending not to take an active or dominant part.

They are two different things.

Examples:

Indifferent:
Person 1 "Do you want Taco Bell or Burger King?"
Person 2 "Doesn't matter, they are both ok."

Passive:
Person 1 "Do you want Taco Bell or Burger King?"
Person 2 "I want what ever you want" or "What sounds good to you" or "You pick" etc

See the difference? One is from not caring, the other is from a lack of will to make a commitment or decision.

Except picking food is pretty trivial and hardly serves as a qualifier to see whether someone is truly passive or indifferent.

Originally Posted by Gumby

O.O

Indifference (indifferent) = marked by no special liking for or dislike of something.

Passive = lacking in energy or will; tending not to take an active or dominant part.

*edit*Bah, Stealth said it way better then I did.

Originally Posted by Gumby

They are two different things.

To you maybe, I just call it being considerate. Or laid back.

I've never known anyone completely indifferent or completely passive. It's usually a mix of the two.

I agree, those were just examples. I wasn't trying to niggle...

People getting bent out of shape over the little stuff in life need something better to do with their time. However when it comes down to a major life decision in a relationship I'd expect the man to step up and do his job, make a decision.

It's not really a personality characteristic, but I guess the style goes along with a certain personality - I've never seen the attraction in eyeshadow. Why do you have blue gunk caked on your upper eyelid? And did you know that your eyelashes could probably puncture aluminum? I dunno, makeup in general seems very unattractive to me, with the exception of moderate amounts of lipstick and blush.

Originally Posted by doodle

It's not really a personality characteristic, but I guess the style goes along with a certain personality - I've never seen the attraction in eyeshadow. Why do you have blue gunk caked on your upper eyelid? And did you know that your eyelashes could probably puncture aluminum? I dunno, makeup in general seems very unattractive to me, with the exception of moderate amounts of lipstick and blush.

for starters, THANK YOU FOR GOING BACK ON TOPIC.

The passive thread is still being bumped, go passive up that.

On to your post, it's really just adding color and interest to your face. That's really it, I guess. I don't wear much makeup out of laziness more than anything else.