Religon in Dating

What about dating inside a religion. Specifically Christianity. Do alot of people see it ok to date someone who is Christian but one is Catholic and the other Baptist?

Joseph

If you can get along and be accepting instead of worrying about crap like that, I don't see why it should be a problem.

I'm an atheist. I'm willing to date someone religious as long as she doesn't try to force her beliefs on me.

I probably would never date muslims or atheists. Atheists mostly because the people that like to make it a point that they are atheists are usually ridiculous and assholes. I would date one if I just sort of found out eventually that they were.

And muslims, well, I doubt the muslim culture would accept me so much. Outside of that, it doesn't matter. Though I probably wouldn't date any extreme fanatics of any religion, be it Christian or some other.

I'm a Muslim, and I would not have any problems marrying or dating someone of another religion. I was, after all, raised here in Canada in a typically lax (religion-wise) environment.

However, I think my mom would kill me if I ever did. For her, my single choice is a Muslim Bengali girl from a nice background. She was telling me about how she wants me to go to Bangladesh when I'm older and find a wife. Uh...

Also, Islam permits men to marry Jewish or Christian women, but I'm pretty sure dating is forbidden unless it's serious courting.

Originally Posted by nabhan

I'm a Muslim, and I would not have any problems marrying or dating someone of another religion. I was, after all, raised here in Canada in a typically lax (religion-wise) environment.

However, I think my mom would kill me if I ever did. For her, my single choice is a Muslim Bengali girl from a nice background. She was telling me about how she wants me to go to Bangladesh when I'm older and find a wife. Uh...

Also, Islam permits men to marry Jewish or Christian women, but I'm pretty sure dating is forbidden unless it's serious courting.

And I'm guessing though the women would have to follow your (Muslim) rules, not the other way around?

It's pretty simple.

If you plan on having kids, you had better agree with your mate on everything that each of you considers important. If someone is religious, chances are, they are going to consider it important. Even if you're both completely open to each other's beliefs, you're going to confuse the hell out of the kid when he can't get a straight answer out of either of you.

If you don't want kids yet, then do whatever you want. I don't think relationships between two people who are culturally different have much of a chance to work out, let alone two people with differing religious beliefs, but as long as you're not bringing a kid into this world so you can fuck him up, go find out for youself.

Originally Posted by Devo

And I'm guessing though the women would have to follow your (Muslim) rules, not the other way around?

I don't know about traditionally, but personally I'd be willing to compromise.

I try to keep as much of an open mind about girls and other religious, but the sort of beliefs and ideals I grew up with WOULD affect my thinking when it comes to a serious relationship, or marriage.

The whole thing about your kids and what they'll turn out like is a bit factor as well. So it makes sense to keep as open-minded as possible.

Everyone in my family has married to a catholic vietnamese person.
However, my cousin's husband used to be a buddhist, but he converted to catholicism just so he'd be accepted into the family by her parents. How sweet.
As for my aunt, she married a white aussie guy, who at this point I think is Catholic, but more of an athiest that anything.


There is a certain level of acceptance in my family, but I think in all seriously they would PREFER if I married some nice vietnamese girl, who was also catholic.....
I asked my parents, jokingly, what if i brought home a muslim girl, covered from head to toe in that traditional dress. They said they'd die from shock.
Jokingly, of course. But I'd guess that that IS what they'd actually do.

However, I think that as long as the girl I'm with is catholic, no matter what ethnicity she is, then they're fine with that

Wow. Surprising that I managed to pass over this thread for so long.

To me, having very a similar religious belief with someone I am dating is very important.
To begin with, I do not like to date, except as a means to an end, which is marriage. Thus, if there is someone who is pretty much not at all marriage material, I not date them.
Building upon that, it is also taught in Chrsitianity that it is not good for 2 people to be unequally yoked in life. Meaning, it is not very healthy for a believer and a non-believer to be married.
Therefore, I will not date anyone who does not hold to Christianity. I will however accept someone who is within the whole realm of Orthodox Christianity, whether Pentacostal or Catholic. In fact, in some ways, I would prefer a gal who has differing ideas of doctrinal nuances than I do (so long as they are well thought out). This will hopefully help keep us balanced in regards to certain perceptions and views.

So you wouldn't date a Protestant?

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I would date people with different religious beliefs, but I couldn't date someone who is really radical or tries to force me to believe in his religion.

Being an Atheist, if I shunned people with other religions, my potential dating pool would be crippled. So I don't let it. I've spent nearly 19 years of my life pretending to respect religious beliefs (Catholic in my case), I can spend more of my life pretending to believe crap to keep other people happy.

Normally I'm a stickler for honesty in a relationship, and I make it a point not to lie to someone I'm dating. Religion is the exception here, because most people get SO FUCKING NUTS (tm) over their religion that it's not worth telling them the truth.

Maybe you should move to Manhattan or something.

Originally Posted by Arainach

Being an Atheist, if I shunned people with other religions, my potential dating pool would be crippled. So I don't let it. I've spent nearly 19 years of my life pretending to respect religious beliefs (Catholic in my case), I can spend more of my life pretending to believe crap to keep other people happy.

So not only are you a lying sack of shit that cannot be trusted, but you lack the conviction to tell people you're atheist. Good job.

Originally Posted by Minion

So you wouldn't date a Protestant?

Well, Protestants, last I checked, are within the realm of Orthodoxy. Like I said, Pentacostals to Roman Catholic. That almost covers everything.

Also, LOL at Arainach.

Originally Posted by Devo

And I'm guessing though the women would have to follow your (Muslim) rules, not the other way around?

Yeah, the woman would have to convert to Islam and the children would be raised under islamic law. Also, the rule for muslim men being allowed to marry jewish or christian women doesn't lie true for muslim women.

Having been raised as a somewhat lax muslim, my parents insist on me marrying an asian muslim, I think it's supposed to act as some kind of atonement for not having lived the perfect muslim life (praying five times a day, all that jazz.) However, I'm a pretty hard-headed girl - I don't see myself going down that road - I'm agnostic and don't really have a problem dating people of other faiths, so long as nothing is imposed on me.

Originally Posted by Fjordor

Well, Protestants, last I checked, are within the realm of Orthodoxy. Like I said, Pentacostals to Roman Catholic. That almost covers everything.

Also, LOL at Arainach.

Actually Orthodoxy is a separate branch of the church. There is Catholicism, Orothdoxy and Protestantism. What you said sounded like you meant you wouldn't date a Protestant.

I would and have dated people outside of my religion, however I can’t date a person that wants to change the beliefs that I have worked so hard to gain. I believe that religion is a very powerful and personal decision that should not be looked upon lightly.

So I guess I am on the fence a little even though I voted ‘yes’. The one thing that I have to have though is the willingness to let my children make up their own mind on what they want to believe in.

Originally Posted by Minion

Actually Orthodoxy is a separate branch of the church. There is Catholicism, Orothdoxy and Protestantism. What you said sounded like you meant you wouldn't date a Protestant.

Well, not really.
There is orthodoxy, which is essentially the basic, undeniable doctrines. The things which, if you deny, make you not a member of that group. In the case of a Christian: if someone says that they believe in all the basic ideas of Christianity, except that they think Jesus was just a man, then by definition they cannot be considered a Christian. Get my drift?

There are other churches which have, as their title, orthodox church, like the Eastern, Greek, Syrian, etc. But that is not what I am referring to. Context my friend, context.