Age Barriers in Romance

Originally Posted by Ayos

Next time I will make the quotation marks much bigger so that you get the idea. Let me spell it out for you.

"Dateable" = hot enough to sleep with. Sometimes, you must go on at least one date in order to sleep with a woman. Hence the term dateable.
Relationship material = someone you'd want to spend time around, get to know, establish a connection with, maybe eventually marry.

Sometimes, the two come together and make something wonderful! Sometimes. Most of the time you just fool yourself into thinking that they have, and end up sad and lonely and divorced. Someone told me that once.

oh jesus christ just stop talking

'relationship material' = 'let's have babies!'
'dateable' = 'I like you enough to spend time with you, talk to you about shit, and fuck you'
'fuckable' = WHAT YOU WERE JUST TALKING ABOUT

you of all people have no right to get butthurt about people misusing words

Originally Posted by a lurker

'fuckable' =

Frank, come'on dude you're like posting your face everywhere.

That's the point, wasteofspace.

Frank I think you're fuckable.

Originally Posted by ramoth

That's the point, wasteofspace.

So, what's the point of posting his face everywhere?

Originally Posted by Alice

I detest the term "cougar." I checked it out on urbandictionary and just as I always thought, a cougar is quite a different animal than a MILF. Apparently, cougars are called cougars because they are constantly on the prowl for unsuspecting younger men. An older woman who happens to end up going out with a younger man is not necessarily a cougar, Deni.

I seem to find myself more attracted to younger men. The person I've been seeing on and off for the last six months is...quite a bit younger. I have no issues with dating someone ten or even fifteen years younger (or older) than me. As long as you're both adults, why does age matter at all?

And the two people who came running back to defend the cougar concept are the two middle-aged broads who are both dating young men. I'm sorry, you've disproved my theory... how?

I've never really had a set age range. Arbitrary age limits just seem silly to me (besides, of course, legality). The oldest person I dated was 8 and a half years older than me. The youngest was a year and a half younger.

More important than age, I think, is the sort of space you're in at that point in your life. If I were looking, I wouldn't be opposed to dating someone younger than me because they were younger, but more because they'd probably be still in a college mentality, and I've moved beyond that at this point. Hell, there are people older than me still in that mentality, and I would eliminate them for that reason as well.

As far as the upper limit goes...I've never been opposed to the idea of dating someone older, even significantly. As long as they're still reasonably attractive and able, I don't see the problem. But then I've not ever been in that sort of May-December relationship, so I don't know how it actually works out.

All that said, I've always had the best luck with someone right around my age.

Originally Posted by Divest

So, what's the point of posting his face everywhere?

"What's the point of this movie? All they do is spray each other with seltzer and attempt to poke each other in the eye."

Originally Posted by Denicalis

And the two people who came running back to defend the cougar concept are the two middle-aged broads who are both dating young men. I'm sorry, you've disproved my theory... how?

I tried to post something but all my non-sewers posts get auto-deleted. Conspiracy.

Originally Posted by ramoth

"What's the point of this movie? All they do is spray each other with seltzer and attempt to poke each other in the eye."

Yeah, but see, thats funny.

Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

For the past 8 months I've been dating someone who is 10 years older than I am. I didn't know this until we'd been dating for awhile...

Do you think that if either of you had been aware of the 10 year age difference before dating, would it have hindered things at all?

I hate to bring this back up, but it's kind of interesting. People where questioning the fact that I asked out a girl that I thought was 17. Well I didn't know this, but apparently in Michigan(Where I live), the age of consent is 16.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

I hate to bring this back up, but it's kind of interesting. People where questioning the fact that I asked out a girl that I thought was 17. Well I didn't know this, but apparently in Michigan(Where I live), the age of consent is 16.

Age of Consent only applies at that age if you yourself are 17 or 18. Otherwise, you have to wait until shes 18 to sleep with her.

Originally Posted by LeHah

Age of Consent only applies at that age if you yourself are 17 or 18. Otherwise, you have to wait until shes 18 to sleep with her.

That may be the case in some states, but from what I've read just to see if you're right... that's not how it works here. I did a google search and everything I found basicly said the age of consent here is 16 with no restrictions. The age gap thing only applies if someone 13-15 has sex. I actually find it kind of odd and at this point it doesn't really matter to me anymore.

I only even brought it up because one of my friends told me that it was 16 here and I don't think most people who live here even realize it.

It all just depends on how much we have in common, if we get along well, and if he matches or even surpasses my level of maturity. I recently accepted the idea of dating someone younger than me, and I don't think it's as undesirable as I once thought. 3-5 years younger than me is too young at this point, but that preference may change in the future. The oldest person who invited me out was 7 years older, and he honestly acted like he was only 2 years older than me or so.

I don't really act negatively if someone close to me dates another person who is too young or old unless I can clearly see that the person has other motives. That's when I usually step in and gently question my friend or family member's decision to date the person who is either too young/old. Mostly too old.

Since this entire thread boiled down into some maturity debate I figured that I'd add my two cents.

I myself don't subscribe to the 'age = maturity' point of view. I'm not really the same person I was 5 months ago (prior to me moving). I believe age might be a factor in the maturity equation but not the definite answer.

I also believe (now) that certain factors also add in to the maturity equation. As, in 4-5 months, I've grown more as a person than I probably have in 22 years.

As for my age limit? Legal to dead (and then some, rawr baby).

And as for he whole cougar thing, Midna and Alice are both cougars on the prowl for younger men but unable to realize or even own up to it. Deni had the best analogy.

Face it, bitches. You ARE cougars.

Just as older men will always want younger girls, older women will also want to get with younger guys.
Maturity? Bah. Money? Sif. MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS? You're kidding yourself.

It's all to do with wanting to feel sexy and fuckable, which is a trait that both genders are guilty of.

So Sugar Daddies, Cougars, MILFs, Toy Boys and Candy Girls unite.
And if in the event there is some genuine chemistry and it is some sort of true love, BOO-FUCKIN-YAH.
Everyone will still call you names.

Get over it, stop denying it.

I'm willing to date anyone up to the age of about 35, but I'd have to admit that I couldn't see any relationship with a 10+ year age difference going anywhere. Ideally, I'd like to marry someone right around my age so we can grow old together.

But as for just dating? I wouldn't mind going 35/36. I probably wouldn't cross the 40 year old barrier though.