Me gots the blues

Once every few weeks, I break down and think to myself, is it really worth it. It all just seems so hopeless and although I'm fighting through it, Almost everything I encounter seems to be working against me, wanting for me to fail. I just feel like sometimes giving in and give up, hoping that maybe that way I would be at peace, to not be worried anymore and fear anymore . BUT then, just then right before I am about to give in, I get back up and keep on trying.

When your down and feel like you can't go on anymore BUT find someway to just keep going, what are some ways you find to motivate yourself to carry through and keep it going?

I never feel THAT blue, jesus.

If I am feeling particularly hopeless or unuseful, I set smaller goals and accomplish them. Kind of like setting myself back a level or finding interest or pleasure in something I know I can do.

I have never, ever considered just giving up though.

Originally Posted by SpaceMonk

When your down and feel like you can't go on anymore BUT find someway to just keep going, what are some ways you find to motivate yourself to carry through and keep it going?

Grow out of puberty and man the fuck up. It works wonders.

Originally Posted by Denicalis

Grow out of puberty and man the fuck up. It works wonders.

good one

Denicalis is right with the tough luv.

SpaceMonk, you have to believe in YOURSELF, bottom line. If you don't believe in yourself, no one else is going to do it either. Life is too short.

You are not going to get anywhere by feeling sorry for yourself. Pick yourself up and keep going.

While I can relate to the feeling of wanting to stop trying (because you're right, at times, trying doesnt seem to get you anywhere), I also have to say that NOT trying stops you in your tracks even more. Like Sass said, build up to the little things.

A book I read used a good line that can be applied:

"Save yourself, or you go unsaved."

I'd rather feel bad and get things accomplished, than feel good and not accomplish anything.

I can totally understand how your feeling. There is nothing wrong with feeling a moment of a weakness because we as human beings are not invincible. Sometimes we feel that world is against us so much to a point, that it would be easier to give up and I know that to a certain extent being in the situation I'm in right now.

It is easy to give up when times get tough but in my eyes it is through the challenges that we overcome in life is what truly builds our character and represents us for who we truly are.

There are a few sayings that I constantly have to remind myself in order keep my strength and goals in plain view:

1.) Life is not suppose to be easy, if life was easy it wouldn't be worth living in the first place.

2.) Life is not based upon conveinence, if your not ready to sacrifice and work hard for the things that are important to you, then your not ready to make the most out of your life.

Last, but not least:

3.) Short term pain for the long term gain.

As chessey and cliche these saying may be, they get me through the rough patches in life.

Other ways I get through the blues is find people to talk to. Not nescessarily to wish you encouragement, but sometimes just to give you good kick in the ass when you really deserve it. Also keep your mind occupied, and try not to dwell on things too much. Always remember not matter how hard you think you got it, there is always someone else that has it harder than you; so be grateful for what you have and use what you have to get you through the tough times.

There are a few ways I look at this.

If this is more of those teenage things, then while it seems impossible at the time, one can only grow up from it. We all have those down days, just as one matures you'll get through them.

However, at some point you also need to make changes. If you are going for some goal that routinely seems helpless, then it's time to make a change. A change in goals. A change in life.

Giving yourself an impossible goal that won't be reached in the next several years or whatever can cause this. The trick is to have shorter goals in between long-term goals. As an analogy, although this one is more computerish, if one were to make a program like Boggle, the long-term goal is to have a game of Boggle, full of features. Short-term goals might be to figure out how to display the board, the logic of the computer, how to keep score, how to check words, etc. As you reach one of the short term goals, you'll feel more confident and successful, and be on the way to a long term goal.

As I mentioned, this also might mean one needs a change in life. Yes, life IS suppose to have discomfort. That's part of life. Life is not easy nor fair. That's just how it is. And yes, you are suppose to just accept and deal with some of it. That is part of maturing. However, I will also say that SOMETIMES this is a clue that one needs to change a part of one's life. As an example, if one is unhappy with their major, perhaps it's time to take a step back, and evaluate things again to decide if a change in major is needed. This does NOT mean you should take the easy way out of every situation. Rather, if you find yourself repeatedly and for a long time unhappy on some aspect of your life, perhaps you should change it (presuming the change is a positive one).

Originally Posted by SpaceMonk

good one

Good enough to warrant you getting mad at the advice and dissing the post.

You want to know what the problem with people like you, is? When you don't like the answer to your problem, you ignore it. Which is why you never go anywhere and keep having the same problems over and over again. "Man, that guy told me to fix my problem but it would be hard and require me not being a jerkoff... fuck that."

Have fun being the same loser you are now for the rest of your life, sport. I'm sure everyone who doesn't tell you what you want to hear is just a jerk. You should keep on ignoring them.

With all due respect Deni, you can't expect all people to listen when you're sounding like you do (using foul language and coming off as offensive). I know what you're trying to say is indeed true in a way, but there are much better ways to phrase what you were going to say, like some people already have in this thread. Most people just don't catch onto "slap in your face" talk if you know what I mean, and I think there's no reason to get all worked up by it if they don't.

From my experience, when you want to help, get a point across or give criticism, you have to do it with respect and without looking down on the other person for any of their miscomings. "Attacking" on the other part rarely gets the point across, mostly it will only get them on their defensive, thus they'll probably ignore whatever you have to say. It's as simple as this, if you give respect, you'll get it in return.

I've got a question for you, I've seen you many times in these kind of threads, and I'm wondering, why do you come to write the same thing over and over again? Do you really want to help or are you just trying to win an argument (e.g. show that "your way" is right)? I just see you get irritated at all these "losers" as you say, and try to get into conflict with them. Why even bother, if you dislike "losers" like it seems you do?

Threads like this never work. The author is always trying to pass down a cry for a legit topic, and it never turns out.

Anyways, whenever I feel like the world isn't doing anything for me, I do nothing for it. Instead I play some video games.

Originally Posted by Denicalis

Good enough to warrant you getting mad at the advice and dissing the post.

You want to know what the problem with people like you, is? When you don't like the answer to your problem, you ignore it. Which is why you never go anywhere and keep having the same problems over and over again. "Man, that guy told me to fix my problem but it would be hard and require me not being a jerkoff... fuck that."

Have fun being the same loser you are now for the rest of your life, sport. I'm sure everyone who doesn't tell you what you want to hear is just a jerk. You should keep on ignoring them.

Can you stop being a massive twat? The answer to his problem? Sorry, was that in your post somewhere? What advice did you give exactly?

So I hear about all this money the economy is losing through depression related lost productivity. I'm sure everything would be sorted out if a couple of guys in office would just tell people to 'man the fuck up' more. That's without mentioning the money the health service is wasting on treating these people. How much would it cost to just pay some guys to tell these pussies to 'man the fuck up', that's all I want to know.

If I could address the administration with this next part:

SpaceMonk shrugged Denicalis' original trolling off as being exactly that. He acknowledged that he was being trolled, and that it wasn't working on him. His second post served a purpose in doing this. It's quite astonishing to see that Crash Landon would give him an infringement over this, while skipping over and letting slide the original post that was intent to cause a reaction in the first place. What would Crash Landon have preferred out of SpaceMonks second post I wonder? A lengthy counter-flame? Yeah! Sure, it would have derailed the thread beyond hope, but we'd get to see Denicalis weigh in even further! And that's what we love about Denicalis!

I suppose this is what happens when you have moderators who see nothing wrong in glamourising the act of attacking another board user: Moderators, in-league with the trolls.

My only advice is when you go through some sort of crisis, just remember that the only person you can rely on is yourself. Even happiness. So with that in mind, why make yourself unmotivated? No one is going to help you but yourself. Just trust yourself, know yourself. It will be worth it in the end when relationships fall and break over time.

This may sound odd coming from me, but beating yourself up over things definately isn't going to make you feel any better. Of course I don't know what your problem is. But alot of times people act like their is some right way to live life. Like if you do what they say that everything will go right, which is a load of crap. Most good things in life come down to luck and chance. So really, why beat yourself up over something we can't control. Just keep trying and maybe you'll find what you want.

That's how I look at it anyhow. Sure I still get depressed sometimes but who doesn't?

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

This may sound odd coming from me, but beating yourself up over things definately isn't going to make you feel any better. Of course I don't know what your problem is. But alot of times people act like their is some right way to live life. Like if you do what they say that everything will go right, which is a load of crap. Most good things in life come down to luck and chance. So really, why beat yourself up over something we can't control. Just keep trying and maybe you'll find what you want.

That's how I look at it anyhow. Sure I still get depressed sometimes but who doesn't?

You're absolutely right, although I didn't give out any details to why I feel like this sometimes, now that I think about it, it's something that's completely out of my control. whatever happened already happened, whatever needs to happen in the future will be, I need to focus on what's happening now. Sure I will probably still get those feelings still but you're absolutely right I need to just keep trying. It's like I already knew but I get lost and forgot in the mess. I'll keep trying, trying, and trying.

Originally Posted by SpaceMonk

Once every few weeks, I break down and think to myself, is it really worth it. It all just seems so hopeless and although I'm fighting through it, Almost everything I encounter seems to be working against me, wanting for me to fail. I just feel like sometimes giving in and give up, hoping that maybe that way I would be at peace, to not be worried anymore and fear anymore . BUT then, just then right before I am about to give in, I get back up and keep on trying.

When your down and feel like you can't go on anymore BUT find someway to just keep going, what are some ways you find to motivate yourself to carry through and keep it going?

Originally Posted by SpaceMonk

You're absolutely right, although I didn't give out any details to why I feel like this sometimes, now that I think about it, it's something that's completely out of my control. whatever happened already happened, whatever needs to happen in the future will be, I need to focus on what's happening now. Sure I will probably still get those feelings still but you're absolutely right I need to just keep trying. It's like I already knew but I get lost and forgot in the mess. I'll keep trying, trying, and trying.

Out of curiosity, have you ever been checked out by a shrink for possibly being bi-polar? These bullshitty sunshine posts you've been dropping around the boards make you come off ten shades of manic. You might have problems beyond just being a whiny teenager.

I'll ditto the idea that Space Monk didn't deserve a yellow card anymore than Deni.

Crash, you're about to be D-Squallified again.