Signs Of It Being Over?

What are some of the signs you give or have received when the relationship is dying out? (EX. quietness, lack of enjoyment etc)

When does it come to the point where you have had enough with signs and hints and just tell out right?

What is the best way to bring them down? Phone? MSG? In Person? Or is there no difference how?

Just curious about other people's experiences.

I think the largest sign that the relationship is over is that you find yourself asking this question.

Good point. Mine isn't dying, I was just curious, as I have a couple friends who have been experiencing this kind of stuff.

<Dubble> you should tell vivi that the yawns and staring into blank spaceare usually dead giveaways

So there you go. If you notice a woman is less than interested in you, then maybe she really is less than interested in you.

I never understood this. When I get sick of people, I lack all tact and tell them I'm kind of sick of them, and could they leave me alone now.

But understandably, most people aren't like that.

The majority of my experiences in watching a relationship slowly die in a fire is when couples start arguing a lot, or generally show some kind of disgust in one respect or another with their partner.

I don't understand what "bringing them down" means? Breaking up? Do it in person. Face to face. Don't be a coward.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

or generally show some kind of disgust in one respect or another with their partner.

I've heard this elsewhere, too. The relationship's in trouble when contempt starts creeping in.

Typically my instinct tells me when somethings up. Most of the time it just doesn't feel like the person is as close anymore, because of an argument or lack of interest or something like that.

I think the most important gauge people tend to ignore is their own feelings. When you don't feel happy being around the person you think you're in love with, you're not in love with them anymore and it's time to move on. When you're depressed being around them, the time you should have left has already came and went and you need some serious therapy.

A principle fact on reading people is that you should never go with what people tell to you, it's HOW they tell it to you.

Body language can tell a lot if you're unsure about your partners feelings.
Some general IODs (indicators of disinterest) are: Turning away a lot from you, not facing directly towards you when speaking, yawning when you speak, never initiating conversation with you when you stop talking, not keeping eye contact with you, keeping away from your touch, not initiating touch with you, moving away/leaning back when you come into her "zone", folding arms across his/her chest, not laughing as much as before (laughing is an indicator of interest) etc etc, the list is endless.
Of course, most of these IODs should be taken with a grain of salt as sometimes there are just reasons why people would for an example fold their arms (e.g. that it's cold or something) or maybe yawn, they are by no means a definite answer but I can tell you if you meet too many of these too frequently I can tell you that your partner has most probably already played with the thought of breaking up with you.

Sometimes you can even find yourself doing these, and if that's the case, just end it already.
It's better for both parts to end it quickly and not stay for too long in a deteriorating relationship.

Lack of communcation, talking about the same subjects all the time. Arguing over major matters with out compromise like religion or lack thereof.

Cultural issues that clash once you reach a point where they need to be talked about or addressed. Feelings of wanting to force a knife between the eyes of your girlfriend or no longer enjoying those personal moments.

Do you really feel that cultural differences to point of discussion are a reason? Please give me examples.

Sure to circumcise or not circumcise. To enjoy comming home to the smell of boiled squid or not.. They being the heavy and light end of the spectrum.

Body language is seen differently ( a cultural difference) sure that can be seen as a challange but it can also lead to a spliting of a couple. Some cultures go hand and hand and are easy to intermingle while others are straight out not meant to be. While we commend people who beat the odds in any case, it still can be an uphill battle and lead to a possible split.

It just depends on the relationship. Sometimes resentment appears, one person gives more than the other. Arguments happen, things end up ugly.

It can slowly fade as well. Things you do together are boring, one person or both contemplate seeing other people. Intimacy fades, calls are less engaging, etc.