Mad or sad?

I've recently noticed that there are two kinds of peoples' responses when it comes to getting yelled at or made to feel bad or humiliated.

Some people get really sad, want to cry, and seem to need a hug really badly.
Others get really angry and fight back, even through tears of uncontrollable anger.

What kind of a person are you? If someone you loved or cared about were to make you feel badly (whether intentional or not), how would you react? Would you get sad, or would you get mad?

Personally, I am the latter. But then, my response to mostly everything is ANGER and RAGE. It's a cold day in hell when I actually cry because I am sad, or that I need a hug. But some people see it sometimes.

I usually get sad, but sometimes it evolves into anger (because I think...a lot...and usually take the pessimistic view of things).

Depends. If I'm getting chewed out by someone ahead of me on the ladder (boss, prof, etc) I go back to my Academy-style upbringing. Stand up straight, nod, stare them in the eye.

Meanwhile, if someone in my age group or a co-worker/collegiate of sorts snaps at me, I'll snap back. I often put them in their place.

It is very hard to get me sad or upset. I don't get sad. I just keep a serious tone/mood. If someone pisses me off, it comes out in force and blunt-wordedness. Otherwise, I think of myself as a nice fella to be around.

But that's my opinion.

Mad wins ^__^

I'm not the kind of person that holds a grudge for very long but I can be very quick to anger. Which can cause a problem in the work environment. I just can't stand it when a boss yells at me in front of a group of people. I won't just stand around and take it, no matter what the consequences are. The only reason I've kept employment in the job that I have for so long is because I'm rather good friends with my boss and he knows better then to be a prick about things in public.

For the most part though I'm quick to forgive people , as long as I don't say anything to hurtful, most arguments I have end rather quickly.

Hahaha it is all about getting mad...so typical X_X

Interesting observation Sassu. I'm definately the type of person who would get sad after being humiliated. I like brooding over that kinda stuff for days (well technically I don't like it but I do it anyway) after it happens, until I sober up and realize that I was being stupid. Then it's on to the next thing.

I wonder if it's related to the fact that I'm a more introverted kind of person.

Originally Posted by samari

Interesting observation Sassu. I'm definately the type of person who would get sad after being humiliated. I like brooding over that kinda stuff for days (well technically I don't like it but I do it anyway) after it happens, until I sober up and realize that I was being stupid. Then it's on to the next thing.

I wonder if it's related to the fact that I'm a more introverted kind of person.

Thats actually a little sobering in itself. I am the same exact way, but in the opposite direction.

I get really pissed at levels that frighten most onlookers - but as soon as I "sober up," as you put it, I let it go, and I move on. I do this with most angering interactions between myself and others - only because it's the only way I know how to deal with it.

That doesn't mean I never forget what was said/done to me, though.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Personally, I am the latter. But then, my response to mostly everything is ANGER and RAGE. It's a cold day in hell when I actually cry because I am sad, or that I need a hug. But some people see it sometimes.

That's basially how I am, too. I use to cry a lot when I was younger, but I just got sick of doing it and started converting it to anger instead. I wouldn't say it was the best thing to do though, as I seem to get really angry a lot nowadays, even at the smallest things. And I'm one of those types who gets really angry, like hitting/throwing/breaking stuff angry.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Thats actually a little sobering in itself. I am the same exact way, but in the opposite direction.

I get really pissed at levels that frighten most onlookers - but as soon as I "sober up," as you put it, I let it go, and I move on. I do this with most angering interactions between myself and others - only because it's the only way I know how to deal with it.

That doesn't mean I never forget what was said/done to me, though.

Right. Same here, it's the only way I know how. My close friends have often told me that I need to be more stern and defensive when put in such situations, but I can never bring myself to. It just never "feels right", you know? Probably would be the same if you tried to run away and hide from the situation rather than get pissed and rage =p

I try not to let what anyone says get to me, but when it doesn't roll of my shoulder, I'll throw a tantrum and move on.

I don't really like being mad or sad, but under the right circumstances I'll blow up in anyone's face, putting me more on the 'mad' side of the spectrum. I am a pretty introverted person too, though I never brood over anything for more than a day. Makes me feel too pitiful about myself.

I've learned that anger often brings change, but sadness tends to bring destruction.

WHERE'S MY BOOK SAMARI?!

I hope you cry for days now >__<

Oh hay

I usually get sad, depending on what was said, like if I did something that messed up things. Of course, I get sad, but I don't cry. Now, if I get accused of something I know for a fact I didn't do, I get pissed.

I suppose it can be a mixture of both. My initial feeling can be one of sadness, but sometimes I grow angry later on. I also have a bad habit of still feeling bothered by whatever may have happened days later.

I get really sad when it happens to me. I try to hold all my anger in, and even though I can't always do that, I know that me fighting back will just make everything worse.

The times I have argued back just got so bad that UGH, I just felt like destroying everything around me. I am glad I never try to do that much anymore.

I haven't been mad enough to bring tears for several years. In fact, I very seldom get angry these days, beyond the "GUH ANGST PUNCH WALL" stage. I guess it's because nobody fucks with me anymore, for some reason. Maybe it's just because I'm more mature. Who knows.

But back in the day when people used to fuck with me all the time, I would get so angry I would shake, and then cry while beating the everloving snot out of them a la "A Christmas Story" (most of the time). It's quite shameful really, not being in control, but damn if I didn't feel better afterwards.

I kind of wish somebody would do something to warrant my anger now, because it's always a helluva stress reliever. Of course, nowadays I guess I'd be sitting in jail rather than detention.

God, it's been so long since I've been yelled at or humiliated that I can hardly remember how I used to react. Another bonus of being old. =p

I think I would get mad. I mean, other than a parent when you're a child, who has the right to hell at or humiliate you? That's just wrong. I think I would be very pissed off.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

I think I would get mad. I mean, other than a parent when you're a child, who has the right to hell at or humiliate you? That's just wrong. I think I would be very pissed off.

Your teachers, your co-workers, your friends and family members?

Believe me. Some people deserve to be yelled at and/or humiliated. I have no qualms about doing it myself if I have to. When you fail to do something you said you would do or agreed to, you deserve it. =/

Hell no. You actually yell at people in real life? You and I would get along about as well as oil and water.

Nigga yells at me, nigga gon get smacked.

So yeah, I guess "mad" is my answer.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

Hell no. You actually yell at people in real life? You and I would get along about as well as oil and water.

Nigga yells at me, nigga gon get smacked.

So yeah, I guess "mad" is my answer.

Ahaha, yea. Mad. ^_^

I yell at a LOT of people. Especially when they're fucking stupid. My lab partner in robotics, for example. I think he's afraid of me now. He fucked up our robot by re-writing the basic commands and thus removing all the work we had done.

We had a sumo match in 30 minutes. I had to rewrite all the goddamned codes and re-write the master program with no help from him, because of his immaturity.

I understand when people want to play with robots - but work before play, assholes. He fucked me over, put me in a really hard spot, and I had to score a good grade with what I had.

You're telling me that DOESN'T warrant a good screaming at or two?

Honestly I can't remember the last time I was sad at someone who tried to humiliate me or yelled at me. It's actually quite hard to light my fuse, but when my fuse is lit, watch out. I've been told I've scared people before when I was set off by someone trying to make me feel horrible and started to yell at me. Actually, if I remember correctly, I got kicked out of that club.

So yes, totally am the mad and angry sort, nor do I forget. I don't keep grudges, but I don't forget, either.

I used to get sad, sometimes cry over pretty much nothing and I felt that I had no real control over it. Took me quite a few years to get past that stage, but it was very rare for me to get angry then. Lately however I think I've developed more of a short temper and I get angry over things that I probably shouldn't, which is starting to worry me in a way. I remember my dad always having a short temper and he'd sometimes shout at me for reasons I couldn't understand, yet now I sometimes find myself getting angry at the sort of stupid things he did. I do try my best to control it though, and often I realise I'm going to far with nothing and just stop talking. =\