What about children?

I personally love kids, and the thing I'm most looking forward to in life is having a child (several, if truth be told).

I tend to be surrounded by people who love children as well; my best friend, for example, is in nursing school and hopes to work in pediatrics once she graduates.

That being said, these forums contain considerably different demographics from what I'm used to... So what do you guys think about kids? Do you want them? Are you indifferent? Do you have a particular child in your life that you pal around with? I'm penpals with an 8-year-old girl from my home town, and I frequently babysit two 3 1/2-year-old twin girls.

I don't think I'd fare well in a relationship much less having one with a kid. I'm too irritable.

I have a lot of younger cousins that always gang up on me whenever I show up. Usually I'm pretty passive about it or I'll play along. However, this one day I was trying to watch a movie and they kept trying to pull me down. I ended up throwing one of the boys, who is probably about 5 or 6, on the couch. I had one hand around the back of this neck and the other around his waist so he didn't completely collide with it. Even after that, the little bastard still persisted... trying to intimidate me with his little spit wads.

I'm assuming they act that way because they're grouped together. If I were to get one of them alone, they'd probably be more manageable.

I don't know... Kids are too impressionable and I shudder to think of the people they would become if one where to end up in my care (which is very unlikely).

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I really, really do not want kids. Maybe it has something to do with being an only child (I have friends from families with 3+ kids and they usually want a brood of their own), but I really don't like kids until they reach about age 10. Even then, I don't particularly like little girls; when I was a little girl, my interests were more in line with the boys, so I don't understand young girls and their dolls/makeup/drama etc. Maybe it's because I never, ever babysat (and when I did a few years ago for my viola teacher's 3-year old daughter, it really made me not want kids).

I also feel that there's enough people on this planet without me throwing my genes into the fray; if I ever had a kid, it would more than likely be through adoption. Disneyland has not helped my attitude towards kids: there were so many double-wide strollers, nose-picking 4-year-olds and pregnant women padding around the place that it just disgusted me to no end with the whole child-bearing thing.

A pity, because I certainly have the hips for it.

I certainly hope that I will be able to have a family someday, and I have always wanted to be a father. Indeed, it has always been one of my fondest dreams. I would be lying if I said I am not little jealous when I see the families at my church interacting together. I wish my family could have been like that. I know that if I have a family of my own I will make every effort to be a good father and perhaps my family will be a happy, smiling family too.

As for children in particular, I don't have any problems with them. They don't seem nearly as obnoxious to me as a lot of people have seem to make them out to be. And even if they are, it's only natural, especially if they have crappy parents. Chances are, you acted just like that when you were a child. Children also seem to like me, for some reason. I will never forget the first time I met my three-year-old cousin, Josh. The moment he saw me, he began following me around, imitating everything that I did. If I left the room, he would said "Where's Blaise, where's Blaise?". The cutest thing though, was when I sat down on the couch and crossed my legs (my right ankle was on my left leg) and he sat down next to me and tried to do it too! All this before I ever even spoke to him.

I don't ever want kids. To me, it's the greatest responsibility there is and I wouldn't trust myself to raise a child properly. Every little thing a parent does affects their child(ren) in some way, and I'd be scared to death of screwing them up for life.

I want kids for a multitude of reasons but PiccoloNamek and Starslight named the main two:

1. I want to be the father for my children that my father never was for me. I dream of having a large family and many children and granchildren and breaking the curse that my bastard of a father left us boys with. =\ i'm very VERY proud of my big brother whom I was separated from for well over 20 years for already achieving this.

2. I dont want any child I have to come out as screwed up emotionally as I am when it comes to myself and my brothers and sisters. We are all eighteen different kinds of fucked up yet, through small amounts of trial and error, we are doing OK. I'm the only child of my father left with no children and when i finally am ready to have them i will be the best father that I can be, bar none.

i guess thats partially why I have begun to dote on my brothers kids so much. I love them a lot and they're really the closest thing to a stable family I've ever seen before which is a bit sad. =\

I'm not definitely sure, but I'm leaning towards no for several reasons.

Kids obviously don't turn out to be perfectly the way you would like them to. I'd love my kid to be a more outgoing version of me with everything else being the same, but my kid could end up liking rap music or sports and stuff like that. It'd be less neat if I couldn't relate to them with the things that they liked to do.

When I look at how much of my parents' money I've unwittingly wasted (I never asked for money from them in my life too), I see that I'm a gigantic lifelong expense. Glasses every year, school every year, birthdays, holidays, trips, eating out, entertainment, etc.

Teens might become hormonal, secretive, and irritant to interact with and I don't know if I could constantly be the type to keep my cool about that and hope for the best.

I want to do everything differently from my parents. I don't want to be overprotective, or do any of the other things that I hate having done to me. Unfortunately, I think I've accepted the adage that you will come to be like your parents in the future, whether you like it or not.


I guess most of the above arguments are negated by the unconditional love you will have for your children, but right now, I'm too young to be picturing that kind of love.

I love kids, hate babies, especially the inconsolable crying all the time ones. Does that make sense lol?

Everyone's family is dysfunctional in one way or another. That's because we're all human and none of us are perfect. If you hold yourself to an impossible standard, you're never going to be satisfied with anything you do, and that includes parenting.

However, having children has been the best thing in my life. I'm not saying it isn't challenging and sometimes heartbreaking, but I'd do it all over again if I had the choice.

I'd like kids. I don't know if I ever will get to have them but everytime I look at a baby I can't help smiling. I'd like to be able to pass on some of my knowledge and wisdom to a child that will see the future when I won't be able to, and hopefully somehow make it a better place.

It's a huge responsibility as others have said, but growing into a better person who can handle increased responsibility is no bad thing, even if you end up deciding not to have kids.

Funnily enough, when I was a teenager I also completely ruled out the prospect of having kids. I think that as you grow and age, your mind changes too, in physical ways that affect how you look at things.

I'd love to be a father someday, primarily because I'd like to outdo my father. That's the ego talking.

Of course, I'm in school and going to stay in school, and I'm not with a girlfriend, so logistically, producing a child and economically supporting a child are not likely.

I'd like to have one or two kids. If they're anything like my younger cousins, the worst part is over when they reach five or so.

Until last week, the youngest kid I got to hold was a 4 year old. I helped one of my best friends take care of her 2 month old nephew, since her underage brother and his wife forbid to leave the room. While I wanted to do more to take care of the kid, I didn't exactly feel excited by the idea of taking care of a baby.

I would love to have kids one day, either by finding some poor sap that wants to marry me or through a sperm bank. I want to wait for a long while, but the idea of having a couple of kids to take care of seems cool. They have such great imaginations and it would be really cool to see how they turn out. Granted, when they become teens I may have more trouble dealing with them, but for the most part I wouldn't mind having 2 kids. No odd numbers over 1 kid since odd number kids normally have at least one evil kid within the bunch (says the person raised in a family of 3 kids).

I'm okay with being near kids. It's just because of their delinquent state of being, I sometimes get annoyed by certain things they do or say. So, that would supposedly be my only downfall at having a child. Irresistable urge to slap him/her or gag'em for silence.

I'm the youngest in my immediate family, and the second youngest when compared to all my cousins from both sides. Regardless, I'm able to get along with children. I have yet to experience taking care of an infant though.

I'd like to raise my own children one day. My parents played a large role when I was growing up, and I’d like a chance at raising a person based on what I learned from them, and with my own changes to encompass the new generation. When I'm older, I probably couldn’t be alone since family has always surrounded me.

Working in retail makes me really glad that I don't have to deal with children, although honestly I'm amazed some of these kids act out the way they do. I never would have gotten away with behaving like that in public when I was a kid.

Although honestly as far as actually having kids, I'm kinda indifferent. I figure that should be up to whatever girl I end up with, she's the one who has to go through being pregnant. If she wants to have kids then I'll do the best I can to be a good father, if she doesn't want to have kids then oh well.

I'm not a huge fan of kids, really. OTHER peoples' kids. But I am a kid magnet. I don't get it. I am OPENLY LIKE 'UGH GOD CHILDREN' but they come running and want to hug me and be my friend. REALLY WEIRD SHIT. Maybe its because I talk to them like humans and not puppies.

But yea, I want a shitload. I know, I know. I hate kids. But like I said - other peoples' kids. They always seem so HORRIFICALLY misbehaved. I plan to run a tight fucking ship.

I used to say I wanted 6 of the bastards. I think I'd prefer more like 3 or 4, now. I doubt my birth canal could hold up against 6 small humans.

Really, though. I take parenting so seriously that I doubt I'd ever be mentally ready for a kid. OR financially prepared. They say that once you pop a kid out, you feel this LOVE that is so intense, it can't be compared to any other love in the world.

Thats a little terrifying. And I would hate to see what I would do to my kids.

Short answer: Yea, I want 'em. But no where in the near future.

I was actually starting to consider adoption in a few years with my fiance. We're still not sure about it, but there is time to think about it =j

With a thread title like this, I'm surprised Sir VG hasn't shown up yet. At least now I know what to do if I need to lay out some bait.

Originally Posted by NYRSkate

With a thread title like this, I'm surprised Sir VG hasn't shown up yet. At least now I know what to do if I need to lay out some bait.

But then, the thread will eventually need to be moved to The Sewers! The only safe place to talk about Sir VG related topics!

As for my preference to kids, as I said before, I'm not one to adore them for long periods of time. But, sometimes I go berserk, or something of the sort, and start to be pals