Deficiencies

What deficiency you could ignore in your lover?

My new BF smokes a lot & also more than a bit fat, ...yet I love him!

Do tell.

I don't think you could really qualify those as deficiencies, which is more apt to be described as something lacking that's normally there. What you have there are vices.

Mind filling out the whys here? I get the impression you're not usually a fan of the tobacco and a belly, how come the about face?

I love how doing something "much" and being "fat" counts as "deficiency".

If I recall right, english isn't her first language people, and it's pretty obivious what she means anyhow.

A trait I seem to be able to deal with way better than the average person I come across is a clingy girl. Gets to me yes, but I don't flee in terror like most I know.

I could never date someone who was lactose intolerant. the deficiency of lactose in a man is just something I can't stand.

you could say I'm lactose intolerant intolerant.

Well, i guess the most you can do is...well, get a new BF. I mean, it is not like he would honestly quit smoking and lose weight if you two just got together unless he is not addicted to tobacco and has a small enough belly he can turn into abs >_>

Originally Posted by NaklsonofNakkl

Well, i guess the most you can do is...well, get a new BF. I mean, it is not like he would honestly quit smoking and lose weight if you two just got together unless he is not addicted to tobacco and has a small enough belly he can turn into abs >_>

Actually he smokes a lot less now & also plan to loose weight, & he's doing that because of me (& him, of course).

I'm picky--seems to be my downfall in relationships.

Maybe I could tolerate... oh what the heck, why lie? He has to be perfect! (And even then, he might not have a chance...)

I can tolerate most things unless it's something can endanger lives, like drug use, I'm also not a drinker or smoker and luckily my bf isn't either. I hate laziness as well, I'm not a couch potato and during days off from work, vegging out isn't my thing and I can't be with someone who is a homebody. So I guess laziness, drinking, smoking and homebodies are traits I don't go along with in someone. Although it's not mandatory they follow those steps, but I'm lucky enough to have found someone who is like me.

Well, meantime he left me. And all he said was that he doesn't think we're suitable for eachother. I think he's not coping with saying what's really bothering him, so from one side I really want him back but on the other hand I'm not sure I want to continue with someone that doesn't really like to speak on what's bothering him so much, in me.

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I think he's not coping with saying what's really bothering him, so from one side I really want him back but on the other hand I'm not sure I want to continue with someone that doesn't really like to speak on what's bothering him so much, in me.

If he keeps throwing up barriers like that, I don't see how the relationship could seriously ever last...

Originally Posted by ava lilly

I could never date someone who was lactose intolerant. the deficiency of lactose in a man is just something I can't stand.

you could say I'm lactose intolerant intolerant.

lol. Nice.

I'm pretty easy going when it comes to compatability. I think my biggest gripe is being intolerant. I'm intolerant of interolerance. :biggrin:

Originally Posted by Miki4

Well, meantime he left me. And all he said was that he doesn't think we're suitable for eachother. I think he's not coping with saying what's really bothering him, so from one side I really want him back but on the other hand I'm not sure I want to continue with someone that doesn't really like to speak on what's bothering him so much, in me.

Hmmm... do you mean he's dumped you now? The guy who you were just talking about that smokes and is overweight? I wouldn't try too hard to get him back. There's always a fear to move on to something new, but in the long run it'll be better for you. He might've been a nice guy but it seems he didn't really care if your relationship lasted or not.

ps, I remember reading your posts a year or two ago, and just wanted to say that it looks like your English got quite a bit better Congrats.

Originally Posted by blue

He has to be perfect!

Aha! This must be why my relationships seem to fizzle after a month. (Hope I'm not jinxing my current one...)

Anyway, things I don't mind... I guess I don't mind a girl that won't put out (easily). I respect that in a person, and whether I'm dating that person doesn't change that. Don't get me wrong, I get horny like everyone else, but I do have a hand and an imagination if it's all too much to bear.
It's not exactly a deficiency, but geez, I can't think of any deficiencies I would tolerate. Blindness, I guess. Deaf is out, I'm a musician. In fact, tonedeaf is pretty much a dealbreaker to me.

Those are deficiencies right? Looking at the thread made me unsure about the definition, and Answers.com isn't helping me enough.

Originally Posted by FallDragon

ps, I remember reading your posts a year or two ago, and just wanted to say that it looks like your English got quite a bit better Congrats.

Thank You very much!! I was fearing it gotten worse somehow.:juggler:

P.S: Also thank you for all your kind words & for the others replies over here as well

Now my BF wants me back. He said that he told me that he wanted a break.
I'm not so sure I want him back now, now that I'm almost over him after a two weeks break.

Also my best friend say that I should've agreed to that break & it wasn't o.k for him to decide this on his own.

Two weeks isn't a break. That's more like a vacation. You tell him since he wanted a break, you'll call him in six months to see how he's doing. Other than that, forget him.