Personality Traits You Hate

Originally Posted by magi

We can't really help it. Sometimes eye contacts are just uncomfortable for some people.

I refuse to believe that you can't help it (unless you have a condition like autism). You know that it's not socially acceptable not to be able to make eye contact. You know it's something you have a hard time with. Why just accept it and say that you "can't help it"? Your mind is strong. You can do amazing things with it. Just tell your eyes what to do and they'll do it. It might not be within your comfort zone, but sometimes you have to suck it up and make yourself do things that are hard, for your own good. If you do it enough, it will probably start to feel natural eventually.

Of course, like you said, there are legitimate conditions that make it almost impossible for some people to maintain eye contact, but for most people it's something that you just have to work on if you want to be socially acceptable.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

I refuse to believe that you can't help it (unless you have a condition like autism). You know that it's not socially acceptable not to be able to make eye contact. You know it's something you have a hard time with. Why just accept it and say that you "can't help it"? Your mind is strong. You can do amazing things with it. Just tell your eyes what to do and they'll do it. It might not be within your comfort zone, but sometimes you have to suck it up and make yourself do things that are hard, for your own good.

Of course, like you said, there are legitimate conditions that make it almost impossible for some people to maintain eye contact, but for most people it's something that you just have to work on if you want to be socially acceptable.

Once again, agree.

I don't see why it would make you uncomfortable to make eye contact with people. What do you have to hide? Its a sign of little confidence to me, and I automatically write people off who show these traits.

And Alice is right - sometimes, despite your comfortability levels, you have to be a man and just do it. None of us like jury duty, none of us like dealing with the police, et cetera. There are some things in life you should just learn to live with.

If you want to get a good job and maintain healthy human relationships, you should be able to look a person in the eye.

Please don't take offense to this. ;_;

Originally Posted by Encephalon

What the fuck dude? Do you have the same friends as me, or what?

The same friend I mentioned above also does this shit to me ALL the time. For example... A month and a half ago we shot pool at his house (on MY pool table, mind you) and I swear to whatever god you believe in this was our actual conversation.

Me: "Hey, I got this new album by this band called Architecture In Helsinki. Put that on."
Friend: "They suck."
Me: "You've never heard them."
Friend: "Who gives a shit? They suck."
Me: "Why don't you at least give them a spin?"
Friend: "Fuck that, put on Creed again."

Later that week we were in my car listening to the SAME band that sucked and it went like this:

Friend: "Wow! Who's this?"
Me: "Why?"
Friend: "They sound awesome."
Me: "You think so? I thought you said they sucked."
Friend: "I never said that!"
Me: "Dude! You just told me that on Saturday! You wanted to listen to Creed while we were shooting pool!"
Friend: "Well shit! I must have been drunk!"
Me: "Dude... You've been sober since New Year's... "
Friend:

Yeah, man i've been there too. I picked up a friend of mine one day, and she hates the white stripes (i rather like them). I had Get Behind Me Satan playing on the player when i picked her up, and she didn't say a thing. I think the only song she'd heard by them was Fell in Love With a Girl, and ever since then, the band has been unworthy of her ears.

I asked her if i should turn it off, and she said no it's not bad. When we were getting closer to where we were going, she was really enjoying it, and she finally asked which band it was. When i told her it was the White Stripes she looked really confused, and refused to believe me.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Once again, agree.

I don't see why it would make you uncomfortable to make eye contact with people. What do you have to hide? Its a sign of little confidence to me, and I automatically write people off who show these traits.

And Alice is right - sometimes, despite your comfortability levels, you have to be a man and just do it. None of us like jury duty, none of us like dealing with the police, et cetera. There are some things in life you should just learn to live with.

If you want to get a good job and maintain healthy human relationships, you should be able to look a person in the eye.

Please don't take offense to this. ;_;

There's just some creepy and or pushy people I'd rather not look in the eye, if you know what I mean.

People who seem to have a constant need to be the best at everything, or have the answer to everything. It doesn't matter what you ask, they have the correct answer (even if they have no fucking idea what they are talking about). It doesn't matter what you've done, they've done it better/faster/harder/longer--even if they really haven't. They exaggerate anything and everything to make themselves look better. Its annoying as shit, but I've found that it often conceals a severe self-esteem issue.

People with very poor personal hygiene. I mean distinct body order, huge pit stains, filthy clothing covered in stains, a complete buffet coming out of the spaces in their teeth. Put some effort into taking care of yourself! I don't care if you don't want to bathe every day, but at least put some goddamn deodorant on and fake it!

The incredibly indecisive. I mean totally unable to make any decision at all for the group. They just stand around and wait for someone else to tell them what to do. Voice your opinion, dammit, because I know you have one!

Originally Posted by ElectricSheep

The incredibly indecisive. I mean totally unable to make any decision at all for the group. They just stand around and wait for someone else to tell them what to do. Voice your opinion, dammit, because I know you have one!

Ah! Dammit I'm well indecisive! But hey, it's not because I'm too afraid to voice my opinion, its because I've got too many opinions, and I'm spending ages trying to pick one!

Okay, people who are never impressed by anything annoy me. Like, you'll do something great or show them something great, and they just won't be impressed, 'cause they've seen it before, or seen something better....apparently.

One more i forgot, is when people have delayed reactions to stuff. I know this one guy who is terrible for this. I'll tell him a joke, and regardless of whether or not he liked it, he'll give me a serious look, for about 5 seconds before be gives his reaction.

Me: *something funny*
Him: .......... "That's Funny"

It's creepy. And he does that for serious stuff too. And the worst part is, he doesn't do it all the time, it's completley random. I never know what to think around him. Man, it gets on my nerves.

Oh shaking hands with a lady...

it bothers me when I see a guy reach out to shake a girls hand. you should always wait for the girl to initiate a hand shake if there's going to be one. and as for the shake you should neither overpower her or give her the fish. i try to meet the hand shake with the same amount of firmness of her grip.

another thing that bugs me is when people are speaking in public or whatever and they keep their hands in their pockets. it just looks silly.

in general, the only thing that really irks me is when people have a total lack of common courtesy. if you run into someone, say you're sorry. if there's someone right behind you while you're going through a doorway, hold the door open so it doesn't smack into them. if you have to sneeze or cough, cover your face. please try not to expell gas in public places; you may be able to handle the smell, I can garuntee you other people will not be so tolerant. if you have any garbage, put it in a garbage can - don't be a pussy and leave it laying around for someone else to take care of.

the list goes on.

I tend to shy away from the arrogant, cocky, over-confident types as well. it is an extremely unattractive trait to have. even if you are the best looking person in the world, don't preach to everyone about how you are. just shut up and be gracious that anybody would notice you in the first place.

I also highly dislike it when people invade my personal space, especially people who I barely even know. it's even worse when they can't take a hint. if I'm constantly taking a step back to get away from you, for the love of god stop following me. unless you're a friend of mine, I probably won't want you hugging me or putting your arm around me either.

Originally Posted by Fyodor D.

Additionally, there are other people who have this sort of demeanor with you that is "fake-friendly." This is hard to describe, and is probably completely subjective, but basically certain people interact with me in ways that a bully would pretend to be friendly with a "victim." Like they are sitting/standing there waiting for you to say or do something that they can mock.
I just hate this. Either be friendly, or be unfriendly... just don't fucking pretend!

If I have a defining characteristic, it's that I'm calm and easy-going... almost nothing mentioned in this thread gets to me much. The fake-friendly thing, though... that bothers even me a little.

Incompetence in my superiors. I cannot stand this. It's one thing if people who work under you are a little more green on matters, but when your boss is a lazy nutjob who can't understand how things work, then there is a problem.

Of course incompetence in general irritates me slightly, but people with authority who are supposed to be more competent than I am is completely infuriating.


Also, I'm one of those people who usually don't look you in the eyes. I'm not sure why, it's just a habbit. And sometimes it does feel awkward for me to do it.

Alice:
Well, I didn't say I don't make eye contact >.>, but its just uncomfortable, and it makes me seem "cowering" under someone on occasions. That's not always the case though, depending on the situation or the people, I guess. I had always trying to avoid to be appearing to stare at people.

And Sass, I don't see how I could be offended by that, those are sound advices. You and Alice both, naturally.

Talking for the sake of noise. Talking is great, but when it gets to the point that you know that someone is talking just because he wants noise.. it annoys me, alot.

Another one is a tiny inaudable voice.

Hipocrates more than anything >, People who can dish it out but can't take it it. Poeple who need to practice what they preach so to speak. That peronality trate makes me wanna hurt something. The only thing I hate more that that are people who think they are better than you for stupid reasons. I don't down on anyone unless they realy deserve it.

There is nothing that I cannot tolerate more than people who are cruel to others, people who hurt others, either physically or emotionally for their own pleasure. Every time I see it I can only feel a sense of anger and bewilderment. I simply cannot understand the motivations of the abuser or how they could derive such pure, almost childlike enjoyment from others' misfortune and misery.

Even in my own church, I see these types of people. And what hurts even more, is that there really is nothing that I can do to stop them. People do not want others disciplining their unruly children, (because that would imply that they can't do it themselves) and the adult offenders are often higher-ups within the church itself and can commit this type of behavior with impunity.

So I simply try to be as kind as possible to the victims. And even to the offenders themselves. Kindness is very important to me. In fact, I might make a post about that in this thread's companion thread.

Other than that, I can get along with the vast majority of people. Annoying people, passive people, loud people, slow people, people who talk too much or too little, assholes, jerks, I'm fine with all of them. But I simply can't tolerate cruel people in my presence.

Originally Posted by PiccoloNamek

There is nothing that I cannot tolerate more than people who are cruel to others, people who hurt others, either physically or emotionally for their own pleasure.

Oh my god... YES! These people are usually the self-absorbed narcissistic pretty boy/girl types who think they're god's gift to the opposite sex (Or same sex, if that's their thing) and treat everyone who they perceive as having "inferior genes" like shit.

I have a few stories about people like this and in one of them a friend of mine nearly disfigured one of these poor saps. Spent 3 days in jail because of it too, but he thought it was worth it, if only to see a broken ego for vindication.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

If you want to get a good job and maintain healthy human relationships, you should be able to look a person in the eye.

Ha ha ha, try it the other way. I knew someone who just would not look away during a conversation. I'd be talking and his eyes would be glued to my face as if I had this enormous facial deformity (and I'd like to point out that I didn't). Even when he was speaking, he'd look and I swear to God, that guy did not blink once. That does not make me want to maintain a healthy human relationship...that just plainly creeped me out.

Ew, I know what you're talking about. There's a difference between maintaining a normal amount of eye contact and boring holes through people.

I think that some people who have a problem making eye contact force themselves to look you in the eye to the point that it becomes uncomfortable. I know this one guy who tries hard maintain eye contact even though it's not comfortable for him, and he ends up bending his neck as if he's looking down, but his eyes stay on you. It's very uncomfortable.